It’s been repeated over and over since Mel Robbins discussed the chances of you being born as being a miracle in her AWESOME TEDx Talk. Someone calculated the statistics and crunched the numbers and decided that yes… YOU are a miracle. She took it one step further and explained it with such amazing detail!
I agree with her and I never needed a statistician (ha, I spelled that right on the first try!) to tell me that. You might find some solace in the technical and scientific details which is totally fine. You do you.
The reason for this particular post is that I never realized that I was a miracle. I never thought I was unique – in a good way. I thought I was average, or maybe even less than average. I didn’t think I needed to be heard, or that I had anything interesting to say. Looking back on my life… all 50 years of it.. lol…the last 35 have been quite a journey. If you read my first post you will know that I was a very headstrong and imaginative young girl. I had what I personally diagnosed myself with as “White Picket Fence Syndrome”.
White Picket Fence Syndrome DEFINITION – The ideal of living the American dream. Little white house on a couple of acres on the edge of town with 2.5 kids and a dog. June and Ward Cleaver style, with all of the wonderful silly happenings which never really amounted to much.
PLEASE NOTE I see this now as… No trouble, no real struggles, no excitement… no travel… no fun.
It is such an awesome fantasy and still today I catch myself wondering what that would have been like. I am such a rolling stone I doubt that I would have stayed, even if it was everything I ever imagined it could be. I have never been one to just go with the flow. I need things to be shaken, not stirred and even though I abhor drama I tend to find it and then over-react to it, every.. single.. time.
I am very empathic, I not only feel other peoples pain, stress, anguish, guilt… I also absorb it. I often times will ask myself why do I feel this way? There is no reason for me to feel sad, depressed, angry or whatever is overwhelming me at the moment. Frequently I realize it’s someone I love who is sharing their feelings with me… of course they are unaware as much as I am until it becomes something I no longer wish to carry.
As of this day. I am praying for God to allow me to let those things go. I no longer wish to feel for others, or fix them. I do not wish to understand their pain at a personal level or the desire to get down in the pig pen with the pigs to experience their strife. I can love from afar, I can support and care! I do not need to feel so deeply in order to help others. I need not suffer for them. It is no longer my journey to be so connected to others that I absorb and endure their struggles.
You see, each of us has our own journey and our own path to walk. We will repeat the same lessons over and over again until we learn what it had to teach us. Until we no longer wish to repeat the same scenario in a slightly different way until we learn to live differently. God and the universe, which I now believe is the same exact thing… God is within us and outside of us and all around us. We are God and God is us. We have the power to direct our thoughts and feelings into positive and productive things. WE JUST CHOOSE NOT TO.
Pain and struggle are, believe it or not, comfortable. We are more comfortable in a bad, scary, hurtful place than we are when being challenged to grow. They say there are only two things that motivate people. Pain and Pleasure. You will stay where you are until the pain to be there can no longer be tolerated, or you will chase pleasure so hard that you overshoot the goal line.
“The secret of success is learning how to use pain and pleasure instead of having pain and pleasure use you. If you do that, you’re in control of your life. If you don’t, life controls you.”
– Tony Robbins
You are just one decision away from creating your best life. Please hear me when I say this. “You will have to make this decision every day, over and over again. You may have to make this decision 100 times a day, so you need to know why, where, when and what you are doing it for… Notice I did not say HOW…that part is up to God. You worry about finding the FEELING of achieving your goal. You find the why, and get real up close and personal with it. FEEL the why…the rest will work out. You have to do the work and you may need to get rid of some distractions to get where you are going, but I am telling you… it will be worth it.
It will be worth it in so many ways I cannot even explain it to you. Are you tired of feeling the way you feel?
What would your best life look like? If you do not know… I implore you to sit down and start writing it down. Dream big. Use outlandish things that you would never even consider you deserve. Get crazy, feel excited.
The only way to get out of your cycle of pain and suffering is to do this, if you do not and you do not make the decision every single day to move forward towards that goal you will stay exactly where you are.
We are all stardust. You are a miracle. You deserve everything you desire, but you have to do the work. The hardest thing you will ever do is to make that decision and commit to it. Once you do that… the rest is a cakewalk because you will be excited and joyful in the pursuit of what sets your soul on fire!
Remember that you are loved!
If you would like to listen to Mel’s TEDx Talk Go here it’s really empowering. https://www.ted.com/talks/mel_robbins_how_to_stop_screwing_yourself_over